I’ve been looking forward to April 12, 2015 for half my life.
17 years.
Since April 12, 1998.
The day I almost died.
Since that moment, I’ve waited to celebrate this one.
17 years on borrowed time.
I’ve doubled my life.
I am grateful.
I’ve celebrated the anniversary every year since. Counting down to this exact moment. This day.
On April 12, 1998, I attempted suicide. That was the best failure of my life.
I had never fought so hard to survive as I did then. And I survived. I knew that my life had to be about something more. Something bigger than what it was. Something better than how it felt. Something.
The days that followed were all about setting goals for myself. Preparing for that something. Whatever that something was.
I thought about where my life had been. Where my life was now. Where my life was headed. I thought about the things I had wanted. The things I had sacrificed. The things I was doing, not doing and wanting to do. I thought. Every single day.
I made a list.
I wasn’t interested in a life without spontenaiety, so my list didn’t include a plan. Just goals. How I would reach those, that remained a mystery even to me. I just knew that I would.
I made a list of all the things I would do in the next 17 years. Everything I would have accomplished by April 12, 2015.
A few months ago, I reviewed that list. I went back to see where I was, to ensure that I would have it completed in time. I had. I had done every single thing I said I would do. I was doing everything I wanted to do. Every single thing.
It was amazing.
A feeling of absolute completion. Accomplishment. Satisfaction. Pride.
And then it hit me like a ton of fucking bricks. I had planned the rest of my life as if it were going to end on April 12, 2015. I hadn’t considered what my goals would be like after that. As far as I was concerned, I was done.
At 34, I had done everything I set out to do.
And then things got weird. I found myself mourning the end of this stage and completely unsure about what the next 17 years would bring.
I thought about where my life had been. Where my life was now. Where my life was headed. I thought about the things I had wanted. The things I had sacrificed. The things I was doing, not doing and wanting to do. I thought. Every single day.
I’ve always had to feel like I was in control of myself. Of my life. Of my choices. Sure, I understood that absolute control was impossible, but if I could control something, I would. And I did.
The day I found myself crumbled on the ground was the day I realized I was not in control. I had somehow, without even realizing it, recreated the end of my first 17. I designed the last 17 years as if they were my end. My last ones. Then I mourned it. Believed it. And I set the scene. Right down to the emotions.
At no point was I actually suicidal but I didn’t care if I lived or died. Looking back, I guess I never have.
People ask me every day why I’m not scared to do the work I do. The answer is simple, I’ve never feared death.
I am not afraid to die.
It sounds strange but there it is. I enjoy walking on the edge of the cliff knowing that I’m strong enough to not jump. I crave that feeling. Not wanting to die but not caring if I live.
And so, the universe gave me the lesson I needed. The real lesson about life and death.
I returned home from my mission to painful news of another death. This one hit home. So close to my heart. It hurt.
Here I was, mourning my own end. Fearless. Not caring. And what I had to see that day, was shattering.
17 years ago, seeing my sister’s face when she found me. I saw in her, what it would look like if I was gone.
17 years later, walking towards her lifeless body, I saw what life looked like for my friend, now that her mother was gone.
History repeated itself.
I repeated history.
This is the end of 17.
April 12, 2015 is a few days away.
I am so proud of where I’ve come from. I am amazed at where I’ve been. I’ve lived more in my 34 years than many do in 80.
But I have a newfound excitement for whatever remains of my life. A thirst for it. A hunger. There will be no more 17 for me after I celebrate this milestone.
Just days. Every day. Weeks. Months. Years. Living. Truly living. Doing. Being.
Creating.
That’s the only goal I’m setting for myself. I will create. That’s it.
Watch me.